Five Reasons Why I Became A Life Transformation Coach
In many ways being a Life Transformation Coach is like being a personal trainer:
I help women exercise their minds to grow and expand and be open to new opportunities and possibilities. Like a skilled personal trainer, a good coach helps you set goals, guides you through new exercises, pushes you to work through pain in a way that avoids damage, holds you accountable and supports you. I want women to succeed in all areas of their lives and being part of your journey is incredibly rewarding.
- During 2020 I noticed that I had a lot of women reaching out to me for therapy services who did not actually have a mental health diagnosis. Their roles in their families and at work were shifting and changing, as was their community around them and their world views. These changes started to highlight things they felt dissatisfied with…had them thinking about what they really wanted out of life and in the future. These women did not fit into the usual “therapy box” and over time I realized that goal oriented, future oriented work was being way more helpful to them. I was not, however, able to connect with them on a super personal level, which left me feeling frustrated. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I have strict legal and ethical guidelines about using shared experience as part of my toolbox thus, a shift to coaching, where I do not work through my licensure, has allowed me to serve women in a way that feels much more authentic and supportive.
- I think it is important to lift women up, help them live better lives and to guide them through reducing negative self talk and judgement. I am saddened by the number of women I hear constantly apologizing for things for which they do not need to apologize. I would be a wealthy woman if I got a dime every time I heard a woman say: “I’m sorry!” when there is no apology needed. “I’m sorry” as someone else runs into her walking through a doorway. “I’m sorry” as she takes the larger piece of cake or God forbid, the last one. “I’m sorry” as she leaves a bad job for a great one. “I’m sorry” when telling her romantic partner something she wants or needs out of the relationship.
I love working with women to help them stop apologizing for simply existing and wanting and needing and expecting things and even for succeeding in life.
- I like to work with women who have goals – small or large – and helping them become more accountable to themselves: To empower them to understand that they are bold and strong and can do what they set their minds to.
- I love a break through. When a client has that moment of self realization. One that might just change their life, even in the smallest way…because small changes have big ripple effects!
- Coaching has changed my life so I imagine it can change yours too. I worked with my first coach around 13 years ago. I was stressed out due to having a job I hated and I felt like I had to keep it because my partner was having health issues and leaving the job seemed like the worst idea in the world.
When I say I hated it, that is actually an understatement. If I were to say how I really felt about it, there would be a whole bunch of —, *** and bleeps. My coach was a Bhuddist Nun. We focused on how I could think about things in a different way…reframe. Not about what was wrong, but what could be better or different. She helped change my way of thinking and kept me focused on the now rather than the past (all the things that had made me miserable in that job over the past few years)! Ultimately, I realized I could change my circumstances within the company – apply for a job that was a better fit. I was blinded by my fear about not doing the “responsible thing” which left no room for there to be an option that was both responsible and would allow me to look forward to work rather than dreading it.
More recently I spent almost a year working with a coach that helped me reframe and shift my process from more therapy based services to coaching. Again, I was stuck in my own thought process and couldn’t really see out of it. Ultimately, I am a coach because I am just like you – as many of my clients have said, “It’s like you are in my brain!” Yep, I sort of am because I was you, I am you.