Help, I’m Stuck – 2 Ways To Get Things Moving

You know you want something different – you just are not sure how you are going to get there. I think most women have been there before and self doubt, concern about what others think of us, the need to be perfect, to please others…keeps us inert…it keeps us plastered to the wall, glued to our seat and the running dialogue of how “if only things were different…if only I didn’t feel stuck…” becomes an never ending voice that stops us from actual action and forward momentum. 

Here are two ways to get a bit of a jump start – just two – and you know why? Because two is a doable number! 

1. Put your runners by the door 

Start small. Micro. Take the BIG picture and start breaking it down…consider what you actually WANT a successful outcome to look like. Pick one, tiny actionable step and go for it! For example, do you want to be healthier and start exercising? You just cannot get yourself to do it – at night you promise yourself you will wake up in the morning and start running or walking the dog or doing yoga or kickboxing or fill in the blank! But, you wake up in the morning and all you want to do is drink your coffee and chill out before the day starts. Break the cycle, start small. Just put your runners (by this I mean your sneakers/workout shoes etc.) by the door. Then, next week, put your workout clothes out and put them on first thing in the morning. Exercise for 5 minutes – and I mean that literally. SMALL. MICRO. Every little thing we do in life creates some level of change. 

2. Give yourself grace

You don’t have to be perfect. Don’t beat yourself up because the runners have sat by the door for a week and you still haven’t put them on. Don’t judge yourself for exercising for “only” 5 minutes. We are our own worst critics and our own worst enemies when it comes to staying stuck. Want to stay stuck? Give up because you didn’t do #1 perfectly! Want to start forward momentum? Consider what you DID do that could help propel you forward and take it as a win. 

To paraphrase the Spice Girls: Consider this… “What do you want, what do you really, really want?” And don’t say, “I don’t want to be stuck.” I’m talking about where do you want to be at the end of not being stuck? Now, create movement through using the two steps above – and reach out to me through my website! Tell me where you are stuck in your life. 

**IMPORTANT TO NOTE: If you are stuck because you are feeling depressed (or think you might be) – please reach out to a therapist in your area. Sometimes stuck is, in fact, related to something that is best addressed by a mental health professional!